longmeicounselling

(双语文章，中文原文在英文版后。转载请先联系作者。) If you ask many Chinese adults what they were praised for as children, one answer appears again and again: "你真懂事。" It is a well-known way of saying "you are such a good child." At first glance, it sounds like a compliment. Parents, grandparents, teachers, and relatives often use it to describe children who are quiet, obedient, considerate, hardworking, and who do not cause trouble. But from a trauma-informed perspective, I often wonder: What exactly are we...

(双语文章，中文原文在英文版后。转载请先联系作者。) Recently, I watched Rental Family, a film directed by Japanese American filmmaker HIKARI. Set against the unique Japanese phenomenon of "rental family" services, the film explores an increasingly common emotional reality of modern life: as traditional families and community support become less available, what kinds of relationships are people searching for, and what truly has the power to heal us? I've also noticed the growing popularity of immersive role-playing...

(双语文章，中文原文在英文版后。转载请先联系作者。) I have always felt that some words are difficult to translate between English and Chinese. Take “委屈” (wěiqu), for example. It is not simply sadness or hurt. It is a complex emotional experience of feeling wronged, having something important inside that wants to be expressed, yet feeling unable or unsafe to express it; wanting to resist, yet having learned to endure. Similarly, “孝顺” (xiàoshùn) is much more than filial piety. It carries deep cultural meanings around...